A Mother's Love Part 3
Today Kayelle is seeing her counselor again. I appreciate the staff in the doctor's office becauae they genuinely seem concernes about this impasse. Everyone says how sweet she is and they seem just as puzzled as Keith and I are.
Because Kayelle began to become depressed about being at home every day and in her words having no friends because she's not at school, we decided to give day care another try. We found a center ten minutes from the house. I explained to the two directora and two teachers who would have the most interaction with her what the circumstances were and what had occurred at Corporate Kids.
Sometimes I feel like a broken record. Often I feel as if people are not understanding the depth of what I'm explaining. The staff was polite, but I feel like they already knew that it was something they didnt feel like dealing with and once an opportunity presented itself they would wash their hands.
The first week Kayelle started at the new day care center was bumpy. The director said she atttibuted to their more rigid structure and said sometimes children need to get used to a new environment. I offered to stay a little bit during the day to ease the transition for both staff and Kayelle, but they declined and said they thought it would be better for Kayelle if I didn't.
So, although I was very candid about everything the scepticism that I have received from various people ever since this saga began came into play: "She's never behaved this way before?" No. Prior to being in the class with the teacher who scratched her she had no major behavior issues. "Is she on medication?" No. She's been observed by her pediatrician and counselor and they don't believe she needs medication. They feel she acts like a normal 4-year-old that needs redirection. "She's exceptionally bright. Does she have ADD/ADHD?" Neither her pediatrician nor counselor believe she has ADD/ADHD.
The second week I revisited the idea of coming to the day care during nap time when the majority of the issues occurred. The director said okay. I only made an apperance for a few minutes. I didnt stay in the day care at all. I sat in the car. A couoke of those days she didnt know I was there at all. For four days Kayelle had very good reports and the teachers saw she was able to behave. During that time I spoke with her teacher and the director in order to implement and incentive for Kayelle's good behavior. Kayelle was very excited about it and looked forward to her first incentive which was to go to Chuck E. Cheese with her class.
On the fifth day, I did not go to the day care. At about 2:30pm I received a call that I had to pick Kayelle up. She had a complete meltdown centered around nap time. She refused to lay down . She ran under a desk and wouldnt come out. She threw toys. She screamed. She tried to fight one of the teachers. The director had to physically restrain her. When I came in she was sitting on the director's lap and the director had her arms around her waist.
The teacher explained to me everything which had occurred. Kayelle sat quietly and I could tell she was sad. I asked her did she know what this meant. She said that she wouldnt be able to go on the trip. I explained to her also that it meant she wouldnt be able to come back to the school. The teacher then said she kept trying to remind Kayelle about her incentive but she wouldnt listen.
Later in the week Kayelle had an appointment with her counselor. When the counselor asked her about it she told hee that she just was so angry because the teachers wanted her to take a nap and she didn't want to.
The counselor was able to gather from Kayelle that she has a fear of being in the dark and associates nap time with that fear. In the past, Kayelle has had episodes of sleep terrors and sleepwalking. We have three night lights in her room and I try to keep her floor clear of anything she may trip over if she gets out of bed.
Keith and I have done some research and found we are not alone with a child who doesn't want to sit quietly on a cot for almost 3 hours in the middle of the day. There are some parents who would prefer their children did not take midday naps at all. Unfortunately, in many states preschoolers are required by law to have nap time.
Because Kayelle began to become depressed about being at home every day and in her words having no friends because she's not at school, we decided to give day care another try. We found a center ten minutes from the house. I explained to the two directora and two teachers who would have the most interaction with her what the circumstances were and what had occurred at Corporate Kids.
Sometimes I feel like a broken record. Often I feel as if people are not understanding the depth of what I'm explaining. The staff was polite, but I feel like they already knew that it was something they didnt feel like dealing with and once an opportunity presented itself they would wash their hands.
The first week Kayelle started at the new day care center was bumpy. The director said she atttibuted to their more rigid structure and said sometimes children need to get used to a new environment. I offered to stay a little bit during the day to ease the transition for both staff and Kayelle, but they declined and said they thought it would be better for Kayelle if I didn't.
So, although I was very candid about everything the scepticism that I have received from various people ever since this saga began came into play: "She's never behaved this way before?" No. Prior to being in the class with the teacher who scratched her she had no major behavior issues. "Is she on medication?" No. She's been observed by her pediatrician and counselor and they don't believe she needs medication. They feel she acts like a normal 4-year-old that needs redirection. "She's exceptionally bright. Does she have ADD/ADHD?" Neither her pediatrician nor counselor believe she has ADD/ADHD.
The second week I revisited the idea of coming to the day care during nap time when the majority of the issues occurred. The director said okay. I only made an apperance for a few minutes. I didnt stay in the day care at all. I sat in the car. A couoke of those days she didnt know I was there at all. For four days Kayelle had very good reports and the teachers saw she was able to behave. During that time I spoke with her teacher and the director in order to implement and incentive for Kayelle's good behavior. Kayelle was very excited about it and looked forward to her first incentive which was to go to Chuck E. Cheese with her class.
On the fifth day, I did not go to the day care. At about 2:30pm I received a call that I had to pick Kayelle up. She had a complete meltdown centered around nap time. She refused to lay down . She ran under a desk and wouldnt come out. She threw toys. She screamed. She tried to fight one of the teachers. The director had to physically restrain her. When I came in she was sitting on the director's lap and the director had her arms around her waist.
The teacher explained to me everything which had occurred. Kayelle sat quietly and I could tell she was sad. I asked her did she know what this meant. She said that she wouldnt be able to go on the trip. I explained to her also that it meant she wouldnt be able to come back to the school. The teacher then said she kept trying to remind Kayelle about her incentive but she wouldnt listen.
Later in the week Kayelle had an appointment with her counselor. When the counselor asked her about it she told hee that she just was so angry because the teachers wanted her to take a nap and she didn't want to.
The counselor was able to gather from Kayelle that she has a fear of being in the dark and associates nap time with that fear. In the past, Kayelle has had episodes of sleep terrors and sleepwalking. We have three night lights in her room and I try to keep her floor clear of anything she may trip over if she gets out of bed.
Keith and I have done some research and found we are not alone with a child who doesn't want to sit quietly on a cot for almost 3 hours in the middle of the day. There are some parents who would prefer their children did not take midday naps at all. Unfortunately, in many states preschoolers are required by law to have nap time.
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